Tonight I was told I was the meanest mom in the world and a terrible person... I made someone do their chore. It was the dishes. We have a dish washer. I did them earlier and there were only a few left. Dishes were thrown around, dropped, and cracked. There was yelling and tears about how difficult it was. After 5 minutes I called off the drama with the wave of my hand and my calm yet oddly frightening mom voice I said "You can finish quietly. If you are too stressed to do the dishes I can always pull you out of all extra school activities to free up your time." .... Silence and the dishes are clean.